Encouragement, Sunshine and Some Wise Words

 

A cheerful look brings joy to the heart, and good news health to the bones. Proverbs 15:30

A cheerful heart

It’s Sunday afternoon, the sun is shining, the birds are singing, the neighbours are gardening and I’ve just been sitting outside with a great coffee chatting to my husband and soaking it all up. I am unable to get to church still because of my mobility and stoma issues. That day may come again but it also may not, a reality I’ve had to come to terms with. So, as not to miss out completely, among other things today, we enjoyed listening to a sermon together, streamed on Facebook, downloaded from an Anglican Parish in Toowoomba. Not a bad way to have church actually, sitting amongst the flowers in the sunshine in our own backyard.

I feel really happy today. I’m enjoying what I can and focusing on that rather than thinking about the things I can’t do. Not easy, a concerted effort to change my mindset was needed but it was well worth the effort. It’s always worth the effort, as the moment the focus shifts to the possible rather than looking at the impossible, that’s the moment a cheerful heart can emerge. Don’t get me wrong, dreaming of the impossible and believing it can happen is also important at times but when the very basics of life are verging on the impossible every day, a dose of reality and being grateful for what you can do, is so important.

I’ve had a really tough few months with some bad news both personal and on the health front. Two weeks ago my Specialist told me that my bones are now not only dead but disintegrating and the bone graft 5 months ago has just dissolved as if it never happened. Plus, my leg is still well and truly broken 21 months on from the initial break. Since my last surgery 3 months ago and with the progression of my disease, my legs have been so disabling, I haven’t been able to walk, sleep comfortably, sit, get in and out of chairs or the car or do much at all really without excruciating pain and fatigue. I’ve also had the worse Rheumatoid Arthritis flare since diagnosis 6 years ago.

I’ve needed some encouragement over the past few weeks and it’s been a bit hard to come by when feeling so overwhelmed by my situation. Pain relief is even harder to come by but an encouraging word  means so much, especially when you are really limited in what you can do. Encouragement can come from friends and family, even strangers or from something you’ve read. The little proverb I’ve quoted above was on my “daily reading” calendar this week and it reminded me how much a cheerful heart really is the best medicine. It reminded me that I am on the right track when I focus on helping others, encouraging others, surrounding myself with things that encourage me and make me happy. It’s good medicine to do that. According to the Proverb, it even brings good health to the bones to give a cheerful look!!

So why are my bones so bad you may ask, especially those of you who know me well and know I give cheerful looks constantly. Well, I don’t think it’s supposed to be literal. It means to give a cheerful look or to be cheerful, gives you a sense of well being and when battling a chronic disease or dealing with any difficult chapter in your life, that sense of well being is exactly what is needed to help sustain you. That being said, I did smile and felt very encouraged that the Proverb says “good news brings health to the bones”. A sense of hope flooded my soul and that’s a good thing. We all need hope and I know that my seemingly hopeless situation is well and truly in God’s hands and if He wants to send me good news that will bring health to my bones, then I believe that is absolutely possible.

In the meantime, without the good news of a cure, I am resolved to remain working on having a cheerful heart, giving cheerful looks and encouraging words to others, knowing that it truly is good medicine 🙂

 

Advertisements

12 thoughts on “Encouragement, Sunshine and Some Wise Words

  1. Hi Sam,

    You are always so positive in your outlook and your faith. You are an inspiration to all who know you.

    We have not met yet we have family ties. We wish you strength and never give up hope and faith. You are in Gods hands€™ (Luke something I think) but also the hands of specialists and other medical professionals who are doing their best for you..

    I hope you don’t mind my asking but if you had your legs amputated would that stop the progression and the pain?

    I ask as someone who has no knowledge of your disease but read your blogs . Does the specialist mean every bone in your body is disintegrating?

    For the pain would the availability of Dr prescribed marijuana help?

    A big hug from

    Joy and Andy xx

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Hi Joy and Andy, thank you so much for your encouragement. It really means a lot. Your questions are all valid and I don’t mind you asking at all. Yes medical marijuana is definitely something I would consider if it was available and approved for my condition. It would be a lot better and possibly healthier than some of the pain killers I need to be on to function currently.

      The leg amputation question is an interesting one and we have thought about that ourselves. I think if I ended up with a serious infection at the break site that would be considered but in terms of the bone disease, my medical team are giving me a 6 month break from any interventions as I’m exhausted from so many surgeries and they want to see how the disease is going to progress during that time. At this stage it seems to be affecting my legs in the most dramatic fashion but they believe my shoulders, arms, jaw and spine may be affected as well. There is really little they can do pro-actively, it’s more a case of patching me up as best they can when bones break or threaten too. My bone marrow is affected and there is some thinking around a bone marrow transplant but again we are all unsure at this stage if that would be even effective in my case. We were considering getting another bone biopsy for a Pathology Professor in Sydney but it’s a very intrusive procedure, my bone won’t grow back where they take it out because of the disease and it will be incredibly painful. If we thought it would give us real answers I’d consider it but my medical team have advised that the Professor is interested purely from an academic perspective, as my case is so rare and even if he discovered something that would give it a name, there would still be no cure or definitive treatment. I did desperately want to know what this disease was called for quite a while but I’ve gone past worrying about “what’s in a name” now.

      Thanks for reading my blog. That’s really lovely.

      Love from Peter & I xx

      Like

  2. Dearest Sam, We have just read your Musings. Focussing on God’s beauty in your garden was truly therapeutic for you this morning. You are truly a great model in dealing with constant physical pain. Trust to know that we love you and pray for a miracle of healing of “den bones, den dry bones”, but in the meantime just wrote to say we love you. Lesley and Peter.xxoo

    Liked by 1 person

  3. Sam, you are truly amazing, my conditions overwhelm me on a daily basis and it can be very hard to be upbeat like you say when our days are so difficult and full of pain, you make t look so easy to deal with it all. I can offer you my prayers and good wishes as we know that our faith is one of the strongest tools we have in our repair kit. Keep smiling awesome lady. xxxx ❤

    Liked by 1 person

  4. Sam, I just wanted to let you know I’m thinking about you. I’m so glad that while you couldn’t get out, you enjoyed a sunny day in the garden with your hubby. Those little moments are what we need to get through the struggles, right? I’m praying for the doctors to find a way to help you feel better. Love across the ocean to you!

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Thank you Linda. Your words are always so encouraging & uplifting. I’ve also been enjoying your blog & as always relate to what you write on so many levels. God bless you. Sending love & prayers back to you across the ocean 😊xx

      Like

  5. Dear Sam , oh to be able to smile and be thankful that you can do the small things like sitting in the sun with your loving husband with beautiful flowers all around you, listening to a sermon from someone far away. These small things mean so much when you can’t get out and live the life you used to live.
    I can understand what you mean by needing a break from so many surgeries and Drs poking and prodding at you. Really six months isn’t that long to recover from what it sounds like is more time in hospital than out. The drugs that your body has to deal with during surgery take a real toll and can take up to six months, some say up to a year before your back to your per surgery self.
    You are so encouraging every time l read anything from you. Even with your broken bones your lifting everyone else up. That is quite a gift and I’m sure you are blessed in return from others and God himself. That is where our true joy comes from. Blessings xxx

    Like

    1. Janet, thank you so much for your encouragement. You have made my day. I can tell you completely understand where I am coming from & your own depth of experience of joy through the pain shines through. Thank you for being such a blessing
      Sam xx

      Like

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s